Anna Paretas-Artacho
09 — Essays

Making sense of my own experience

I write about experiences that have made me question how I think, feel and relate to other people. These essays follow what happened, what I came to understand and what I’m still learning.

Anna Paretas-Artacho
Personal experience · Research

Personal experience and research on the same question

I explore some questions in two connected essays. Here, I write about my experience and what I have come to understand. On TEG-Blue, I examine published research and develop my interpretation of it.

Each essay can be read on its own. As the related research essays are published on TEG-Blue, I’ll add the links here. There is no required reading order.

Personal essays

Rumination

Why do I keep going over what I can’t resolve?

Personal experience · English

When I couldn’t find an answer

My experience of rumination: replaying conversations, looking for answers and learning when to put an unresolved question aside.

Research essays in development

I’m developing these essays on emotions and behaviour, drawing on published research and my interpretation of it.

Draft · Not yet published

Which version is real? Why behaviour changes between home and work

Someone can listen patiently to colleagues and dismiss or frighten a partner at home. What changes between those settings, and why can a good reputation make private harm harder to report?

Draft · Not yet published

Why can’t I stop going over a painful experience?

Replaying an argument can feel like an attempt to understand it or prevent it happening again. Why keep reviewing it when we are learning nothing new?

Draft · Not yet published

Why evidence does not always change minds

People sometimes judge evidence more harshly when it challenges a belief they already hold. That does not mean they are unable to reconsider. Several experiments show that accurate corrections can change beliefs.

Essays about websites

TEG-Blue and Substack

The framework behind the tools

Explore TEG-Blue’s account of emotional and relational patterns, alongside the tools developed from it.

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My Substack

You can also find me on Substack.

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